Monday, January 7, 2013


    Wanna know something that I've been doing this past fall?  Writing letters to a dear friend of mine - as a pen pal.  I write her once or twice a week and she writes back to me! 

    That's amazing, huh?  Well, I guess not everyone is the pen pal type of person, but I always was.  I remember having pen pals from different countries in elementary school, and to this day since being away from home in Texas and India I have stayed in touch with close friends through letters.  I write letters at least once a month.  My grandpa Troyer does the same thing, he is an avid letter writer, an Amish man with friends all over the states, and does such a good job keeping up with them!  (In fact he says he won over my Grandmother who was in another state by his letter writing! ;). 

    Some people don't like to write and the postal service definitely doesn't compete with our fast paced lives these days, however there is something special about it.

    A lot of times I write to others just to let them know that I'm thinking about them, in a way that the meaningful touch is kept in tact where in email and Facebook and even text it has the opportunity to be lost.  I write Melissa to pour out my heart.  I decided that I needed a pen pal this fall while I was in Kolkata, India because it would be hard spiritually and I wouldn't have any acquaintances there.  Melissa is a dear friend and she speaks the same language spiritually, I asked her if she would commit to writing to me - I needed her!  I wrote her the day that I arrived in Kolkata and told her about all the smells and faces that colored the city, I wrote to her every time that I needed a friend to talk to, every time I needed to share my heart, every time my heart was overloaded. 

    There wasn't an immediate response (in fact it took 2 wks for my first letter to get to her and 2 wks for me to get her response).  However my heart was not waiting in limbo at the response.  I knew that Meliss would understand and was in constant prayer for me.  Just writing it down and sending it to her did so much for me.

    We've continued to write back and forth since I've come home to the States.  What a lovely friend.  Sometimes we don't need to busy our lives with constant action, immediate response, gratification, or emotional reactions.  Indeed quick access can actually make our lives more stressful.  We do have emotions though and need a way to understand and embrace them! 

    Perhaps writing letters is a good idea for you?  Maybe you need to just go see that friend in person once every two weeks and pour your heart out - instead of just texting or FB!  See her!  Write her!  But do it well, and then your dear hear will rest!


  1. Dear Shyla Troyer,

    Greetings in the most precious name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
    So good to know you through your profile on the Blogger and I am also glad to know that you are involved in the ministry with the youth and has lot of opportunity to invest yourself in to their life as good friends to support you spiritually. I am glad to know that you visited Kolkota and you made a mentioned of Malissa of one of your trusted friends. Great to hear how you are surrounded by the young people whose lives you can impact and trusted friends who are around you to make your life Godly.
    Well about me, I am in the Pastoral ministry for last 33yrs in the another great city of India which is Mumbai a city with great contrast where poorest of poor and the richest of rich live with a population of 18 million of which half of the population lives in the slums of Mumbai and those who live in the slums are the people who are underprivileged, poor, marginalized and socially, economically and politically oppressed. We reach out to such people with the love of Christ to bring healing to the broken hearted and to give them new hope, future and purpose in their lives. We also encourage young people like you as well as adults from the West to come on a short term missions trip to work with us in the slums of MUMBAI. We would love to have come now to Mumbai for a short term missions trip. You could encourage other youths too whom you serve to come to Mumbai for working with us in the slums to bring healing to the broken hearted. God willing I am coming to States in the month of July 2013 and will be so glad to meet you and your friends who are around you and even the young people whom you serve to share more about the ministry we have in the slums of Mumbai. Looking forward to hear from you very soon. My email id is and my name is Diwakar Wankhede

    1. Diwakar,

      Did I ever reply to you?? I am reading this now and not sure if I have. I was so touched by your message. Thank-you for extending your ministry. Mumbai is one of my favorite cities. I am not serving in India currently, I am in the States, but if you want to chat feel free to send me your email on here or via Facebook message: Shyla Troyer

  2. Hello Shyla. Thank you so much for your response to my comment to your blog post which I had almost forgotten. I sense God's leading which has prompted you to respond to my comment. God definitely has purpose in it. Since you did work in Kolkata for one year and also your love for Mumbai, it would be great if you come to work with us either short or long term to be hands and feet of Jesus to bring healing to the brokenhearted God willing I am planning to come to States in June 2014 and would love to visit you and share about our ministry. It has been up on my heart to start an Old age Home for the retired minister who do not have any provision from their children to take care of them during their retired life. We also plan to start Child Care Center in the slum for the Orphans in the slum. I would love to be in touch with you through email. Last time I did write my email but it seems the email id deleted. But have learned new way of sending it which is :dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and my name is Diwakar Wankhede

  3. I love this so so much! Thank you for sharing.